ACCEPTING DEFEAT IS SOMETIMES GOOD
Chances are you’ve been on the outlook for the perfect girl. You may even think you’ve spotted her. Maybe it’s at work, maybe it’s on a train or a bus, it could be almost anywhere. You have to have a reason to approach a girl and break the ice or you’ll never know if she likes you or not. You don’t need to be in a relationship that makes you miserable and you won’t ever get to know whether or not she’s into you if you don’t perform a little exploration, so let’s get to work!
YOU WANT HER TO LIKE YOU, RIGHT?
Unless you are some kind of masochist, you are seeking to have her “get into you.” It’s a natural thing to reinforce your manhood, your pride and your ego. As the proverbial expression goes “you have one chance to make a good first impression”. You don’t want to lay the seeds upfront that will ultimately turn to poisoning your future relationship. It helps if you know something about her, her likes, dislikes, hobbies, passions. Does her clothing or fashion accessories say anything about her? It could be something under the radar that you need to apply some thought to. Does she have a bumper sticker on her car to save the whales? Does she have a collection of seemingly trivial memorabilia on her desk?
You see, what you really want to do is give her an opportunity to look YOU over and see if there’s any hope there. Sure, she’s pretty much going to know right away that she’s got YOUR attention. The question is, does she want to give you some of hers? You should be able to figure it out pretty quickly.
WILL I SEE ANY REAL PHYSICAL SIGNS?
So what do you need to look for? This is a body language kind of thing. When she sits there crossing her legs or crossing her arms, not good! If your doing well with her, you’ll find her in a far more relaxed posture. If she’s not making eye contact with you, well, that’s a bad sign. If she’s not very responsive to your snappy banter, well, that’s a bad sign.
IS IT JUST ME OR IS THERE SOMETHING ELSE?
Bro, it’s not just you! Female psycho-social behavior is a complex thing and there are all kinds of really deep underlining potential causes of behavior that your potential girlfriend may not have any conscious awareness of. Lot’s of girls are loving daughters of their fathers. After all, their father was the first male they imprinted on. You will be hard pressed to find a girl who isn’t willing to talk about her father. When a boy shares any common character traits with the girl’s father, it’s a real plus! Things like a similar hobby or profession or alliance. Having physical characteristics like the father can be a good thing for you, too!
If your general appearance and demeanor deviates far a field from her perception of you emulating the role of her father, you could well be in a jam.
FINAL WORDS OF WISDOM
So, if you’ve tried some of these tips yourself and there’s still no sign of fire, you’re going to have to face facts. Pack it in bro! You have found a real ice cube and you shouldn’t waste anymore time. Life is short! Play hard! Sooner or later you’ll have good luck!